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The “Wise” Words of a Newlywed Man
The “Wise” Words of a Newlywed Man
DISCLAIMER: I know I am just newly married (1 week, 4 days, and happily counting), so my marital advice, or more accurately, “nuances noticed from my new married life” (I know, a mouthful, right?) is not going to be as wise, or deeply sought after as those who have been together for more years than I have been alive. Yet, a newly wed does offer a unique view, and this is one of those views.
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Going through marriage counseling and trying to prepare ourselves more and more before the knot was tied, we heard a lot of things. “You have to get used to being around each other so much since you are now sharing most of your personal space with someone.” Or, “Remember to be honest with each other and share about your highs and lows with your spouse, it will help you grow closer.” And many other, very helpful, tips; yet, one thing we were not prepared for was how much we would be in one another’s thoughts. Like, seriously, I think about Leah (My wife, by the way :D) all the time; and it’s not just, “Oh, I wonder how she is doing.” It is more of a thinking about her every little thing I do, such as, “Will she like this? What would she say if I bought this? Is she ok? Should I call her?...”
And sitting on the outside of marriage you might be wondering if that can get annoying. Well I can tell you with my expert knowledge of the married life (that was sarcastic by the way), that I love it! (that was not sarcastic). When God said in Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” He really meant one flesh. When you do anything in life you constantly do things according to how you will react, how you feel, what you think. Well, when you are now tied to another life (I assume it is similar when you have a child), you move yourself below that person, and rather than doing things according to yourself, you do it according to your spouse.
It really is a wonderfully unique feeling, to be so connected, so close that you are one flesh. I truly hope and pray that does not change, yet, at the same time as noticing these changes in my life I want to look at them through the eyes of God. When I decided to become a Christian, I was saying to Christ that we are to become one. Ephesians 5:25 tells us that we, as saved believers, are the bride of the Christ. In that, we have become one, in that, we are now connected on such a level that we should be in each other’s thoughts, in everything we say, and everything we do. But are we?
Just as I said about my marriage, I hope and pray that I will always have Leah in my every thought, but I know that has not been the case for my marriage to my Lord and Savior. So, today, I recommit my vows to Jesus, and I challenge you do this as well. I pray that I can begin anew in keeping Jesus as the center of my thoughts, just as Leah is at the forefront of every decision I make. I pray that Christ can continue to be one with me, and in that; every decision I make, and every step I take, may it all be to the Glory of the our God and Father, Jesus Christ. Amen.
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Good perspective Luke. Marriages do start out that way and it is a good thing to remember on anniversaries. As married life and Christian life move along things start to cloud this perspective, usually the "failure" of the other person to respond in kind. After a while, although Christ does have our best at heart, "unanswered" prayers (really just unfulfilled wishes) tend to send us on a singular quest to make things happen on our own. Usually those things have at heart our supposed best interest rather than God's. You get to the point where you buy the thing or do the deed and then try to figure out how to properly explain it so as to be accepted without retribution :) Thanks God for grace!!!